I want them dead11/8/2023 ![]() You could also give them other ways to express their emotions, for example offering to draw with them, jump on the trampoline, or write a song or a poem about how they feel. You might need to suggest the sentence first for example: “It sounds like you are feeling ……….does that sound right?” For example say “I feel so hurt about this friend right now” and “I feel very very angry and disappointed about that” and “It feels like I will never be able to do this” and so on. Gradually help children learn to use different types of “emotion words” and a reason for these emotions. It children can slowly learn to express this distress with more detail, and in other ways – then they will cope better with these feelings and we can help them more effectively. “I wish I was dead” thoughts are often about children telling us they feel really distressed – and this is the only way they can fully express their feelings. Try to help them to express their feelings in other ways. Also remember to pick your time to ask questions (you may need to wait until they are calm).īut do try to get some more details about what is going on for them.Ĥ. Which part of the day has been the worst?ĭon’t interrogate the child by asking more questions than they seem comfortable asking. Is there something you feel most angry about? If you could change something what would it be? What do you think about when you feel upset? Here are some options if you can’t think of what to ask: It is important to try to find out details about what the child is upset about. Take time to find out thoughts and reasons for their distress Say: “I’m so sorry you feel so bad”, “I wish you felt better”, “I’m really sorry you are hurting so much” or something similar.Ģ. Telling children off for talking about how bad they feel can sometimes make them feel more ashamed, and more unhappy. Don’t lecture them about all the good things in their lives. Don’t tell them off or get cross at them – empathise instead.ĭon’t get mad, don’t lecture them about why they should not be sad. Of course some children who say “I wish I was dead” ARE depressed, or DO have immediate needs for support, but the words alone don’t usually suggest this.Ģ. It doesn’t necessarily mean they are hiding something from you, that they are sad “deep down” nor does it necessarily mean they need help. ![]() It does not necessarily mean your child is depressed (they may be, but it’s not a definitive sign) nor does it doesn’t mean there is something else wrong with them. Many children say something like this at some point, it is not uncommon. Here are some steps you can take if you have heard your child use sentences such as these. As parents, our dearest wish often is for our children to have a happy, meaningful life – and hearing these words is often a shocking blow. It’s very distressing for parents to hear their children say these things. “If I have to do this/if this happens I will kill myself” ![]() Every week we see children, aged from 5 or 6 onwards who say something like this: ![]()
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